FIVE LESSONS I LEARNT FROM MEGAMIND

Isn't it funny that I would be writing about a blue, bald-headed guy from an animated movie? But that's exactly what I would be doing in this post. Megamind voiced over by Will Ferrell happens to be one of those animated superhero action comedy films I have watched for more than six to seven times. The story is about a guy who decides to become a villain and not just any kind of villain but the "baddest" of them all in the place where he lived called Metro City. He possesses unique gifts and abilities but was always treated as an outcast by his peers at school. He grew up in a prison where he was taught that evil was good and good was evil. He tried so hard to please his teachers and friends but every effort was met with rejection which made him feel worse about himself. On the other hand his arch rival, a handsome hunk called Metro Man was treated to much fanfare while Megamind was sent to quiet corner. But the movie ends with Megamind, the much hated villain dedicating a museum that had been built to his honor for defeating a ruthless villain he mistakenly created called Titan. Of course, he also got the girl Roxanne Ritchie too. After all don't they say the good guy gets it all?

Anyway what was Megamind's beginning like and what are the five lessons I learnt from his story? Megamind, a super intelligent extraterrestrial mastermind was born on a dying planet and sent off to earth in a capsule accompanied by his minion when he was barely a few months old. His father and mother remained behind and died with the other inhabitants of their planet during the explosion. But before he was sent off, he heard his father telling him what he was destined for. Unfortunately, all he could remember were the very first lines, "you were destined for...." because his little capsule's door closed up, setting his capsule off at lightning speed on a long journey to earth. It also happened that as he set off to discover his glorious destiny, a little handsome looking baby with great hair did the same too from another planet and they were all headed for the same destination, Earth. This little baby's name was Metro Man and it was on that day that their long lasting rivalry was born.

The 5 key lessons I learned from this...

1. When the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is imminent.

I have heard this phrase a countless number of times yet many do not truly understand how potent this statement is to set them free to pursue their calling. Megamind was destined for good not evil. But because he didn't get what his father told him, he spent his teenage years trying to gain acceptance amongst his peers and everyone else to no avail. He tried many times to be good but kept on getting bad results. Every attempt at doing something was met with contempt and at the end of the day because he didn't truly know what his purpose was he began to feel dejected and the next thing he resorted to was full scale evil.

There are many people today who are living the kind of phony lifestyles they have adopted because they felt as if being the guy or girl who didn't conform wasn't the "in thing" anymore. Every guy/girl is losing their virginity so why keep mine. Everybody is shagging around so who cares if I do it too. Hollywood marriages don't last therefore marriage must be old-fashioned. A couple of flings around is good for me. And I can go on and on. Like Megamind we came from a Kingdom above with clear instructions on how to live life down here on planet earth. But we have forgotten all that because we don't spend time with our Bibles which is our manual for living and instead we look to Celebrities, Billionaires, Athletes, TV commercials, Soap Opera's for how to live the abundant life in Christ. Christian Rapper Da Truth says it's like "Looking to Bruce Banner (Hulk) for anger management classes." Megamind misused his gifts and abilities because he didn't know what his purpose was.

2. Don't compete with anybody

Megamind spent his early years trying to out do his rival Metro Man and this was the major reason why he gave up doing good in favor of evil because he really couldn't measure up even though he too was extremely talented. Some people are naturally gifted at certain things. I mean if I try to compete with a Lionel Messi on the soccer pitch today, I will always feel inadequate and untalented meanwhile that isn't the case. God has blessed each and everyone of us with unique gifts and abilities and things that only we alone can do excellently well. Our job here on earth is to find out what those things are and do them to best of our ability. In that way we get to enjoy each others gift rather than trying to compete or out do one another. I love Lionel Messi and I enjoy watching him play soccer. I equally know that there are things I am naturally good at in other areas and everyday I work at becoming excellent at what I do. Never compare yourself with anybody rather work at being the best you year in year out.

3. Take responsibility for your life

Don't play the blame game. It doesn't help in anyway and neither should you adopt a victim mentality. You will be on the same spot till God knows when. I know someone who back in my University days told me the story of her life and lamented why so and so happened to her. I met her 4 years later and I was surprised that she sat me down and told me the same story I mean without missing a beat that she had told me 4 years earlier. What I then figured out was that she had told this story so many times it had become a rhyme to her. Megamind was disappointed about the fact that life had dealt him some very hard blows. Metro Man his arch rival was adopted by a rich family while he was adopted by prisoners. Metro Man went to school with the rich kids while he was brought in every day to school from prison. Metro man was given awards while he was sent to quiet corner. Was this his lot in life? Was he meant to be an underdog? There are certain things you can't change in life like where you were born or the family you were born into and a host of others. But you can determine to a very large extent how your life pans out because tomorrow is always better than yesterday for those who will take care of their today. Don't use excuses to stay in a rut. Get out of that rut and make something meaningful out of your life. Megamind finally got this message and in the end got the girl he loved and a stature of honor to his name.

4. Beware of your closest associates.

One thing you need to be careful about is who you associate with. There are people who have lost lucrative jobs and deals because the people they hung around with gave off a strong negative vibe. Some have even been jailed because their friends committed a crime and they were innocently arrested too since they hung out together a lot. If you know where you are going in life and what you hope to accomplish then begin to choose carefully the people you hang out with. Preferably your closest associates should be people who share the same values with you and who motivate you. Megamind's closest associate was his minion who felt that he was destined to be an evil genius and praised him for being so. The moment he began to realize that Megamind was becoming soft, he rebuked him sharply and told him that evil was all he was good at. He eventually fell out with Megamind and left him because he was becoming good. Doesn't that sound like you? Bad friends never want to see you climb out of the pit. They will either pull you down with them or insult you from afar. Stay away from people who don't add value to your life.

5. Be Real

One of the reasons why Megamind almost lost the love of his life Roxanne Ritchie was because he deceived her into thinking that he was Metro Man's Museum Curator who went by the name of Bernard. He didn't see himself as good enough as he was to attract the beautiful Roxanne. There are many people today who spend their entire lives living like other people. They spend an awful amount of money on designer stuff, hair, makeup and all what not trying to fit into an acceptable social mold or what the media has defined to be the epitome of true success. Just be yourself and people would accept you the way you are. I once heard a man say, "What you compromise to keep, you will eventually lose." And the truth is every lie always need another lie to cover it up. That is why there are no successful liars for one day the hidden truth would eventually be revealed. Let people know who you are and if they accept you that way then good if not they can bounce right along. God's arms are wide open to receive you. When Megamind was discovered, he finally came out with the truth about himself and surprisingly enough the lady loved the real him more than the fake identity he had been carrying along for a while. Some people are paying the price today for the lies they told yesterday or the personalities they adopted just so they could belong to a certain clique or keep up with the joneses. It's not worth it. In the words of John Mason, author of An Enemy Called Average, "You were born an original don't die a copy. "

EFFECTIVE TIME MANAGEMENT

You may be skilled at the art of planning but without effective time management skills your plans will fall to the ground like a two dollar suit case. So what is time and why must we manage it efficiently?

Time is defined as a point or period at which things occur.

Now listen, to this Time is an equal opportunity employer. Meaning that we all have the same amount given to us on a daily, weekly, monthly and yearly basis. But what you make of it determines where you stand at the end of your sojourn here on earth. There are certain things that are inequitably distributed for example some people were born into rich homes while others into poor homes. Some people go to Ivy League schools while others studied in the village. Some people earn millions every year while others struggle to make ends meet. Some countries have more sunlight than others. Some places are colder or hotter than others. But one thing is common to all men on planet earth irrespective of their time zones, they all use the same currency called Time which once spent can never be regained. So we need to spend it wisely. We have to begin treating time like money as the old saying goes, “Time is money.” Well, that is half true. The mere passage of time doesn’t make anyone rich but rather the effective use of time brings about a sense of fulfillment, joy, laughter, confidence and rest. We all have 24 hours in a day, 7 days in a week, and 365 days in a year. So why is it that some people achieve a lot given the same time while others go around wishing they had more time? It is because they are poor time managers. Now answer the following questions;

·        Are you usually punctual or late?

·        Do you finish things within the time you stipulate?

·        Do you hand in your reports/work on time?

·        Are you able to accomplish what you want to do before deadlines?

·        Are you a good time manager?

If your answer to these questions was “No” then it implies that you are poor at time management and I am here to help you become good at it. Even if you can say with absolute certainty right away that you are a good time manager, I know that there is always room for improvement.

Effective time management tips.

•  Create a daily plan

• Make up your mind to be early no matter what

• Peg a time limit unto each task

• Prioritize tasks (Do the A tasks before the Bs and Cs)

• Always have a jotter with you.

• Track your time spent

• Eliminate time wasters

• Learn to say “No”

• Focus

• Don’t sweat the small stuff

Things to Remember

• He who fails to plan; plans to fail. Your life wouldn’t run on autopilot. You have to make a conscious effort to take the reins and direct it in the way you want it to go.

• If you don’t manage your time wisely, someone else will use your time, skills and abilities to help them achieve their own desires.

• Learn to delay gratification. Pay now and play later not the other way round. If you will invest your time wisely now that you are young, the time will come when you will have more time for leisure and to enjoy the finer things of life.

• There is more time than you think you have. Stop complaining about the fact that you need more time. What you need rather is better management of it.

GOAL SETTING

A wise man once said, “That he who uses yesterday’s ideas in today’s market wouldn’t be in business tomorrow.” Insanity is usually defined as doing the same thing over and over again yet expecting a different result. Success is a habit and so is failure. But you aren’t truly a failure until you quit trying. However, failing successively may dampen ones moral and end up becoming a bad habit and bad habits are not easily broken. Why? A habit as defined by the American journal of psychology is more or less a fixed way of thinking, willing, or feeling acquired through previous repetition of a mental experience. Old habits are hard to break and new habits are hard to form because the behavioural patterns we repeat are imprinted in our neural pathways.

REMEMBER THIS, How you think determines how you feel and how you feel determines your will. We must be mindful of this because the Bible tells us in Proverbs 23:7a, For as he thinks in his heart so is he. You eventually become what you repeatedly think of. If you think you are a good for nothing fellow then that is what you will become. If you think that you cannot pass an exam, then you will eventually fail. So we must guard our thoughts carefully. The decisions that gave you a certain level of success in 2013 won’t produce the same results for you in 2014. We need to grow. We need to move up higher by making a conscious effort at self-development. That is where goal setting and effective time management come into play. Now let me ask you a few questions,

1.      Have you thought about what you want to be doing in five years' time?

2.      Are you clear about what your main objective at work is at the moment?

3.      Do you know what you want to have achieved by the end of today?

If you want to succeed at any level, you need to set goals. Without goals you lack focus and direction. Imagine playing a football match without a goal post. How do you get to know who has won? In the long run frustration would be the end result. Goal setting not only allows you to take control of your life's direction; it also provides you a benchmark for determining whether you are actually succeeding. As a student you have to set academic goals at the beginning of the semester and manage those goals throughout the academic year. As an Entrepreneur you have to set goals for your business and continually refine and manage them over a set period of time. As a Pastor you have to set goals for the Ministry and manage those goals over a set period of time. Even family’s do set goals. Nobody is exempted from goal setting because that is what gives you the drive to keep on going when the going gets tough. You must have heard of the famous maxim which says that, “when the going gets tough, the tough get going.” I would like to add that this is true only for the man who has goals. 

What is a Goal?

A goal is a desired result a person envisions, plans and commits to achieve.

Goals must be SMART. 

S-Specific

M-Measurable

A-Achievable

R-Realistic

T-Time-bound

There are two categories of goals; Short-term and long-term goals.

Short-term goals can go from one day, to one month, one year or even up to five years while long term goals can go from five years and upwards. The interesting thing about goal setting is that the long terms goals are dependent upon the short term goals. In other words, achieving your short term goals will bring your long term goals to pass faster than you ever imagined. That is why what we do on a daily basis matters a lot. Many students would rather wait until an exam is announced before they start putting their legs inside cold water, drinking Coca-Cola or Nescafé all in a bid to stay awake the whole night. Meanwhile if they had started reading their books from day one of the class they wouldn’t have had any reason to do these things. Little wonder a wise man once said that, “the future you hope for comes in one day at a time.” If you will commit to achieving your daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly goals then life will become more fun, less stressful and very exciting. The number one cause of stress in many people’s lives is the sense of failure that comes with not achieving one’s goals.

To accomplish your goals, however, you need to know how to set them. You can't simply say, "I want" and expect it to happen. Goal setting is a process that starts with careful consideration of what you want to achieve, and ends with a lot of hard work to actually do it.

The Golden Rules for Goal Setting

• Set Goals that Motivate You (The why factor)

• Make sure your goals are SMART

• Write them down

• Make an Action Plan

• Stick with it

Things to remember

• Success in any field requires forgoing excuses and justifications for poor performance or lack of adequate planning.

• Be flexible and willing to revise your goals. Don’t become so locked in on your goals to a point where you develop tunnel vision. It’s like being so determined to score a goal without realizing that the goal post has shifted or been removed.

• Get an accountability partner. This is someone who has similar goals with you and one you can trust to share your goals with. Meet regularly to review each other’s goals and well as reward yourselves for their accomplishments.

• Don’t sweat it even if you don’t accomplish some of your goals. Some people get to a point where they become so obsessed with their goals so much so that missing to achieve one of them appears as if the whole world would come crumbling on them.

Performing at your peak isn’t rocket science. With a proper understanding on how to set goals and achieve them, you are more than half way up the ladder of greater achievements but not without understanding how to manage your time effectively.